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Goodbye Quinn

Well, 2017 started off rough as we had to put our oldest dog Quinn down yesterday. She’d lived a long life of over 16 years and fortunately didn’t go through the cancer issues that her sister did 2 years ago, but it still sucks. It sucks saying goodbye to a good friend and it sucks seeing someone you know age. It’s hard making that choice too. Is it too soon, is her quality of life diminished enough to justify this decision, are we being selfish keeping her around a little longer? Lots of questions; questions you don’t really get to make with people. If she was a person, she’d be in a home, just waiting to die, getting visits from us on the weekends, if we weren’t too busy, but maybe I’m more of a pessimist in that regard.

Such a sweetie!

Such a sweetie!

I remember when I first met Quinn and Harley, 2 sisters that Mrs. SSC rescued from the streets of Chicago 15 yrs ago. It was my first visit to Mrs. SSC in Chicago after our internship and we’d gotten back to her apartment, a nice 3rd floor walkup, and as she opened the door there was a ton of barking and 2 dogs jumping up on me wanting to know who the new person was in their place. They were a great pair of dogs but they couldn’t be more dissimilar. Harley had the nickname dingo because she looked and acted like one of the crazy hyenas from Lion King, and Quinn was a cuddler and a “soft whore” always looking for the next best soft spot in the house to lay on.

Harley, the crazy quiet dingo.

Harley, the crazy quiet dingo.

I remember when we tried to save money and shave them ourselves in Mrs. SSC’s apartment one summer. Harley worked out fine, except she got these “racing stripes” down her back that never seemed to grow right again, adding more weight to her hyena personality, and Quinn… Oh Quinn… The 5″ of fur that we tried to take of of her started to pile up, float around the apartment, and bog down the clippers and we weren’t even halfway through shaving her. Once we finally finished, we vowed to never try that again and stayed successful, until that point where she didn’t handle the groomers well anymore. Then I gave her a couple of hand trim shaves at home, but it’s way easier when you have a yard and aren’t trimming her inside a small apartment.

She never did seem to recover well after the loss of her sister 2 years ago. They’d been together since birth and after Harley was gone, she just seemed to be more distant. Not wanting pets as much, not wanting to snuggle as much, and kind of distancing herself from the family. Lola helped some, but it probably wasn’t the same. They played well and got along well the first year, but after that, even Lola was too much for Quinn. Getting old sucks.

Lola, the new queen of the castle

Lola, the new queen of the castle

Of the two, Harley was definitely my favorite, but Quinn, was definitely the cuddler. I’ll miss having her come up to me looking to get petted and snuggling in to hang out. I’ll miss her bouncing around on those rarer days that the temperature gets cold and she gets to enjoy being outside with that massive fur coat of hers.

I’ll just miss her period. She added a lot to the household and was great with the kids, and pretty much, I’ll just miss her.

42 thoughts on “Goodbye Quinn

    1. Mr SSC Post author

      Thanks, Mrs. SSC came up with the names from the Batman character Harley Quinn. 🙂
      She did live a long life, that’s true.

    1. Mr SSC Post author

      That is a tough decision. Everyone is doing alright, or as expected. The kids are good with it as long as they don’t think about it. Our youngest keeps saying, “Quinn’s still not here.” Our oldest has dealt with it well though, a little sad, but takes comfort knowing she and Harley are playing together again.

  1. Mrs. Picky Pincher

    I’m so, so sorry to hear about Quinn. I had to put down a pet a few years ago and I know the lingering feeling of guilt and questions hurts so much.

    You did the right thing. She knew how much you loved her, even if she was old and cantankerous. 🙂

    1. Mr SSC Post author

      It’s hard knowing if you’re in the right spot, not too soon, but not too late either when making that decision. It still is sad, even knowing it’s for the best. 🙂

  2. Donna

    It’s one of the hardest things we pet owners have to do. You gave her a great life and did right by her when the time came. No pet could ask for more.

    1. Mr SSC Post author

      Thanks, she definitely had a good life. We were talking about how bouncy they used to be, and how neurotic they’d get chasing “treat ball” toys all over the house. Fun times indeed. 🙂

  3. ChrisCD

    So sorry. You made the right decision. Dogs hang on for us much longer than necessary. I am also glad Lola already made a home with you. I am often saddened when someone loses an animal, but then can’t get beyond the grief and find a new friend. Dogs/Cats have shorter lifespans and there are always numerous fur friends looking for families.

    We have had to say goodbye to numerous fur friends over the years. Some were harder than others, but we always found providing a home for a new friend helped.

    Keep hugging the kids, keep hugging Lola. Your heart will heal.
    cd :O)

    1. Mr SSC Post author

      Lola seems to be taking it harder than the kids actually. She was really clingy yesterday wanting more pets than usual and was moping around pretty depressed. Hopefully it won’t last too long.

      Even dealing with this numerous times, it never gets easy, which I guess is a good thing otherwise I’d be worried I’m a sociopath, lol. We had talked about not getting a new dog when Harley passed away, but it was just too quiet, even with Quinn still around. Lola’s been around almost 2 yrs now and has settled in nicely.

  4. Tawcan

    So very sorry to hear about the loss. That’s tough to have to deal with this at beginning of the year. Hopefully the kids are doing OK with this news.

    1. Mr SSC Post author

      Thanks. The kids are doing well with it. A little crying and sad when they said goodbye to her before school, but happy knowing she’s in a better place and playing with Harley again.

    1. Mr SSC Post author

      Thanks, Actually Lola seems to be depressed. The first day, she was a bit clingier than normal, and yesterday, she was even more clingy wanting a lot more pets and to be held/hugged rather than just petted. She’s been a bit mopey too, so I think she knows.

      She had been trying to get Quinn to play the last week, way more than usual, maybe trying to cheer her up, or make her feel better. I noticed that she gave her way more attention this past week than normal though, so mabe she sensed something too.

      I’ll keep an eye on her and give her as mucha ttention as she needs, but she is definitely reacting to this.

  5. Erik @ Hippies de Land Rover

    Oh men, so difficult decision, sorry for your loss I know what it feels like. I hope the kids are ok. But all this makes me think, life goes on and we need to live end enjoy every moment of it… ’cause is short!!

    btw, nice names 🙂

    1. Mr SSC Post author

      The kids are dealing with it fine. A little sad at first, but happy knowing she’s playing with Harley again. Definitely a reminder that life is short, that’s for sure.

      Mrs. SSC came up with the names from Harley Quinn the batman character. 🙂

  6. TheMoneyMine

    So sorry to hear that. I’m sure she had a blast of a life in the SSC household and it made your family life and hers better as a result. It’s tough to let such good company go, especially after all these years. But also you gave her a better life than she could have expected in the streets of Chicago!
    Hope the kids are dealing with it ok.

    1. Mr SSC Post author

      Yeah there were definitely fun times all around which makes it that much harder to say goodbye. She definitely got a better life than if she’d stayed on the streets of Chicago that’s for sure. She definitely made our lives better by being around and being great company.

      The kids are handling it pretty well. Sad when they said goodbye, but glad knowing she’s not feeling bad anymore and is playing with Harley again.

  7. Go Finance Yourself!

    I’m so sorry! Losing a pet sucks. We lost one of our Boxers a year ago. She was a fighter. The vet gave her a year tops after we found the tumor that was removed had already spread. She ended up staying with us for another 14 months. Putting her down was one of the hardest things I’ve done. We have another that we’ve had since he was a puppy. He’s starting to slow down more and more, and I’m starting to dread when that day comes. Definitely makes you cherish your time with them every day.

    1. Mr SSC Post author

      That same type of thing happened with Harley. They found cancer, but it was inoperable, due to it being in her bladder, and they said, yeah probably 2 months. And she was still bouncy and happy for 4 more months after that. When her end came, it came quickly though, but like your dog she was a fighter.

      It definitely reminds you that life is finite and theirs is shorter than ours. Thinking back to when they were both middle age even, they were so much more bouncy and playful and it makes me think how much age slowed them down.

      I’ve already told Mrs. SSC that when the time comes she gets to make the appointment for Lola, that’s a hard call to make. 🙁

  8. Mr. PIE

    So sorry to hear about Quinn.

    The connection we have with or pets is so powerful and indeed more so than we can explain at times to those who don’t have pets.

    We lost our two cats Pepper and Charlie over the last few years. Charlie lived the longest, always running around like a mad thing and full of energy. Last year after too many complications with thyroid disease, diabetes and eventually renal complications and lots of weight loss, we had to say goodbye to her. It was hard seeing our kids cuddling her for the last time and tears streaming down their faces as they said bye bye. They are very eager to get a couple of kittens again but I am not so sure I am ready. Our boys are more resilient than i am. That is kids for you, I guess.

    Give Lola lots of attention for sure and enjoy every single day you have with her.

    1. Mr SSC Post author

      I’ve been giving Lola extra hugs and pets as she wants them. She’s still been a bit mopey, but hasn’t shied away from getting lots of hugs and more petting than usual.

      It’s really hard to say goodbye to pets, especially when they’ve been around for so long and made such an impact. Mrs. SSC isn’t wanting to add another dog, but I think in time she’ll come around. Maybe just not another 65 lb greyhound, lol.

  9. Mrs. Groovy

    I’m so sorry to hear about Quinn. The loss of a pet is heartbreaking. We’re down to one Groovy Cat. I dread the day we have to put him down and he’s still young and healthy. I’d love to get him a playmate but like Mr. Pie, I’m not so resilient.

    1. Mr SSC Post author

      We’ve discussed maybe no more dogs for a bit after Lola, just to ahve more freedom for traveling, doing things with the kids, etc… I think it sounds good on paper, but when the house gets as quiet as it does with no pets… I don’t see it being a reality.

      Even with Lola, I’m already seeing some grey on her face, and thinking, Gah, you’re aging too quickly! 🙂

  10. Mrs. COD

    Oh, I’m so sorry. She looks like a sweetheart. We are in a similar “when is it time to let go?” phase with our cat, who is extremely old and frail. Just hoping to keep her comfortable and that she’ll make the choice obvious when it’s time. I’m so sorry you lost that member of your family!

    1. Mr SSC Post author

      Thanks and good luck with your cat those choices aren’t always obvious or easy. The choice got more obvious for us over the last few months with multiple vet visits and finally the visit where they say, “well, there’s just not much more we can do.”

      She lived a long life though, so I’m grateful for the time I got to spend with her.

  11. Miss Mazuma

    Oh – I am so sorry to hear this. Our dogs are such an important part of our lives – the unconditional love alone makes all the fur and slobber well worth it!! I know it is hard to decipher when that right time is because, let’s face it, there is no right time to say goodbye to someone you love. But making that decision was the most humane… same as Mrs SSC rescuing those pups off the street all those years ago. Thank you both for giving them a good home and a great life. I am so sorry for your loss and am sending hugs your way.

    1. Mr SSC Post author

      Yep, her love and pets and licks made finding her hair tumbleweeds worth it. It seemed like no matter how many I’d pick up each day, the next day, there were always more, lol.

      They had a great life with us and Mrs. SSC and definitely returned the favor with love to us. Thanks for the hugs. 🙂

    1. Mr SSC Post author

      Thanks for the hugs! It’s been good remembering her as her younger bouncy, nosy cuddley self, rather than how she’s been the last few months. A good reminder she did have a great life, just everything gets old eventually.

    1. Mr SSC Post author

      That’s a good point, because the only other dogs I remember getting close to that age were my Grandad’s chihuahua’s. And they were usually snarly, mean, and distempered by then. Yikes!

      As far as Harley and Quinn, we definitely improved each others lives that’s for sure.

  12. TJ

    I am sorry for your loss. 🙁 Our (My parents’) family dog is getting up there in age and it will definitely be a very sad time. They had to put down the cat a few years ago and that was difficult on both of us kids even though we are now adults.

    Love the Batman reference in their names.

    Sometimes I wonder if I might pursue having a dog or cat in”early retirement” ?

    At this point, I haven’t pursued a pet of my own because I am at work all day and it didn’t seem fair to leave it alone for that long. From growing up with pets, I know it’s a huge responsibility and I wouldn’t want to do it if I can’t do it right. We’ll see. For now it seems good enough that I can just play with the family dog whenever I visit.

    1. Mr SSC Post author

      Thanks for the sentiment. Putting down a fmaily pet is always rough.

      I was in your boat with getting a dog when I was single. It just seemed selfish, with me being gone for work and school 12+ hrs a day, and no yard, and well I figured I could wait until I got a yard at least. They are a big responsibility, I jsut didn’t want that burden in those days, even though I really wanted a dog.

      Good luck with that decision when the time comes, it’s a big one. 🙂

  13. Mrs. BITA

    I am so sorry for your loss. I grew up with dogs and I have one now so I understand how large a loss this is for all of you and how big a hole she has left behind.

    1. Mr SSC Post author

      Thanks, it’s been rough. Lola is starting to get back to normal, and our oldest is still sad occasionally about it. I think Mrs. SSC decided over the weekend we’re going to get another rescue greyhound because it’s too quiet without Quinn around. I’ll keep you updated when it gets closer.

  14. Jason

    Sounds like a great dog. I hate when we have to lose our pets. It has been over two years since we lost our dog and I still miss Peanut, even with our replacement fur buddy. My condolences to you and Mrs. SSC

    1. Mr. SSC

      She was a pretty awesome dog. Even with lsoing Harley 2 years ago, I still miss coming home and not seeing her or getting to give her a treat ball for her to maniacally chase around the house. 🙂

      Lola is awesome and I love having her around, but she’s definitely a different dog than H and Q were. Which is good in itself too.

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